Telling Your Story

I have recently had the pleasure of getting to know Sylvia Lovely. An attorney by training, Sylvia is thriving in her role as a Story Teller and Collector. 

I’m so excited to share this conversation that Sylvia & I had recently and hope that you will follow her on her Connecting Our Voices Facebook page HERE and at SylviaLovely.com .

(please ignore the amount of times I say “um” and “you know”)

end of the year reflection & flow state

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WHAT DID YOU SAY YES TO THIS YEAR? BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF – WHAT DID YOU CHOOSE EITHER CONSCIOUSLY OR BY DEFAULT?

Which of these choices served you and which do you need to let go? Decide what you want to actively choose for yourself in 2022.

DON’T PLAY SMALL   – ALL YOU’LL DO IS HIT YOUR HEAD ON THE CEILING OVER & OVER

When you’re FULLY PRESENT, operating *IN* your body, *in the zone*; when you’ve completed something that makes you feel proud of yourself, that is when you’re in alignment or  flow.  When you’ve done something you regret, you can feel both resistance and  resentment – that’s the opposite of flow. It’s pretty obvious what’s the most productive and where the growth happens.

THINK ABOUT WHO YOU ARE – WITHOUT LABELS, WITHOUT OTHER PEOPLES’ OPINIONS IN YOUR EAR AND WHO YOU KNOW YOURSELF TO TRULY BE.

Think about what is and isn’t working for you. Tune into the times that you feel your best – and if you’ve gone off that path, just think about what you know you need to do and re-route. Set yourself up for success by taking the small, daily actions you know you need to take to get back on track to reach your goals & live in alignment with your best self. Keep that commitment to yourself. 

As you move forward, strive to be in flow in your relationship with yourself: stay in your late & do your thing – without worry or comparison. Connect with the people in your life that are important to you: spend quality time, make eye contact & listen. Ask for help from someone who’s been in shoes similar to yours. And now that you’ve reflected on yourself, help someone out who needs what you have to offer.

90×10

Add in so much goodness that the less-great stuff gets squashed out! Have FUN consciously curating the aspects of your lifestyle that will bring positivity and allow you to up-level your health, relationships, mindset, productivity – everything!

Don’t do the good stuff in moderation – make the good stuff the MAX – knowing that perfection is a lie!

Some examples:

  • 90% healthy whole foods to fuel your beautiful body / 10% treats
  • Healthy movement most days (doesn’t have to be a “workout” – just get moving!)
  • 90% prioritizing restful sleep / 10% late night fun
  • Positive, high vibe content consumption: podcasts, books, music, movies
  • Conscious social media consumption – avoid the comparison trap!
  • Quality dialed-in (aka not distracted) time with friends and family
  • Personal development, journaling, gratitude practice, meditation – whichever ones work for you!
  • Less-toxic products (personal care, home, etc)

Squeeze it in

Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good…

Crazy day get the best of you? No time to hit the gym or yoga studio?

Just because you don’t have time for a full workout, there are likely plenty of opportunities to squeeze a few minutes of movement into your day:

  • Do a few 60-second wall-squats while on a call
  • Planks are a great position for reading – set up your stopwatch and alternate planking on forearms/elbows followed by a rest then a plank from the top of a push-up position – repeat 5 times for 30-seconds each interval
  • Double stairs: if you need to go up or downstairs, go twice (e.g. go upstairs, back down, then back  up)
  • Do a 10 or 15 minute yoga sequence via YouTube (Yoga With Adriene has a ton of free, easy options that you can do at work without getting sweaty)
  • Stand up & sit down from chair or couch while scrolling social media

Try it today -be intentional about adding small bursts of activity throughout the day

Get on up!

GET UP EARLY!

Save the excuses. “I’m not a morning person, I don’t sleep well, I’m a night owl…”
If you need more time in the day to get things done & make changes, you need to get up earlier.  If you want to make a change, you will.  If you don’t want it, you won’t.  It’s that simple.  Successful people get up early – (it’s the only way to add more hours to the day) – & take care of their business.  And you can, too.  You may be tired or have trouble adjusting for a day or two, but it is worth it. I read that 90% of executives wake up before 6am on weekdays & 50% of self-made millionaires wake up at least 3 hours before their workday begins – (applicable to however you define ‘workday’ – 9 to 5, work-at-home, full-time parent included).

I have found it helpful to use a little positive self-talk when I wake up & have the option to stay in bed, hit snooze, or get going…I say this to myself every morning:

“I’m up, I’m up, I’m up! My goals are important to me”.  And my feet hit the floor.

So before saying you don’t have time, make the commitment & gift yourself the time to be productive by getting up a little early.